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SHARP MINDED WOMAN UNMASKS A SEXUAL PREDATOR

Corra Group are not in favor of the proposed legislation making it mandatory to conduct background checks on every prospective member of an online dating service, Aside from the privacy and civil rights issues, it s fair to say we have enough laws on the books that are difficult or impossible to enforce. That said, we can’t advise strongly enough that individuals take it upon themselves to order at least minimal online dating or singles background search on everyone they are planning on dating. The recent article in the Kansas City Star provides an excellent case in point to the value of background checks.

The article sites a 55 year old woman from Sonoma County, California who was alert enough to recognize that a man she met on True.com was the same guy with whom she corresponded a year before on Match.com The man, Robert Wells, was a convicted sex offender who had his physician’s license revoked by the medical board. True.com has since taken Wells to court for fraud.

Needless to say this is not the kind of man you want lurking on your online dating site. This is not the man you want in your house or near your kids. In this case, there was no real damage done. In other cases, the prospective paramours and their families aren’t nearly so lucky. Not only does a sexual pervert pose serious physical and financial risk to the victims, his actions can cause permanent psychological damage and leave lasting emotional scars on everyone concerned.

Many companies offer a variety of background checks. If you are planning on dating someone or even corresponding regularly with that person over the Internet, we can’t urge you enough to run a background check. True.com claims less than ten percent of its membership applicants get around their mandatory background checks. Sometimes the names aren’t posted correctly, that particular county doesn’t make these records public, or there are so many similar names and birthdates the bad guys get lost in the shuffle.

At Corra we try to reduce the odds by looking over your background report and if necessary even providing red flag warnings. We believe our combined twenty odd years of investigative and research experiences help us pick up the suspicious elements or inconsistencies in a background report. We are hands on company that actually orders the report and reviews it. When requested, we will take the time to note or discuss the inconsistencies with our clients. We attempt to separate similar names so that the report accurately reflects the actual person in question.

I would advise all to read the article from the Kansas City Star. Unfortunately, it is one of many. And remember, for the price of a decent haircut or a week’s worth of mocha lattes, you can conduct a background check on prospective paramours. Most times on the day your order the search, we can return their criminal records and their financial and professional histories. There are no guarantees in life. But a thorough background search helps avoid the con artists and sexual predators lurking on the Internet.

You have one heart. Use it wisely.

An article in the CONTRA COSTA TIMES – WALNUT CREEK – Robert Wells advertised himself on an online dating service as a semiretired physician who enjoys wine tasting, “The Sopranos” and reading science fiction.

But a woman surfing the Web site recognized the Walnut Creek man from another dating site she’d used a year earlier. She told the current service, Dallas-based True.com, that Wells was lying. Not only had the medical board revoked his license, according to a lawsuit, but he also was a convicted sex offender.

“Before I went out with anyone, I always checked their backgrounds,” said the Sonoma County woman, whose name is being withheld because she fears her safety is at risk.

The company sued Wells earlier this month in U.S. District Court in Texas, alleging Wells committed fraud by misrepresenting himself when he agreed, during sign-up, to a contract stating he was not a felon. Wells was one of what True.com officials say is less than 10 percent of people who get around the company’s background check.

“I make a promise to my members,” said Herb Vest, True’s chief executive officer. “If you are clever enough to get around our site securities, I’m going to prosecute.”

Wells said he did not intentionally misrepresent himself and does not recall agreeing to a contract.

“I don’t think (the suit) has a basis,” he said. “There was no representation of anything at any time. I just signed up.”

True.com is suing Wells for at least $200,000. The suit comes at a time when several state governments, including California’s, are considering laws to ensure online dating services conduct background checks or tell visitors that the site does not conduct background checks — a move that blocks revenue from potential members who get screened out.

Now some sites including Yahoo Personals, eHarmony and Match.com include a contract that asks members to state that they are not convicted felons.

The sites also warn members to date at their own risk.

“(Background checks) are not infallible,” said Match.com spokeswoman Kathleen Roldan. “It just gives people a false sense of security.”

Rather than background checks, Match.com staff members monitor communications between members to help make sure people don’t post offensive photos and notes. The site also includes safety tips, and members can contact the staff if they perceive a problem.

Few online dating companies conduct background checks, leaving members to independently beware, said Parry Aflab, executive director of Wiredsafety.org.

“That cute 40-year-old guy you’re cyberdating might not be cute, 40 or a guy,” she said.

True.com which uses the background check as a marketing tool on its homepage, is lobbying in favor of the proposed law in each state.

Match.com and eHarmony have joined other Internet companies opposing the laws.

Vest said his company conducts background checks about each person who signs up. The checks try to confirm that the potential member is unmarried and has no felony convictions. The weeding-out process causes Vest’s company to lose about 10 percent of its business right off the top: about 5 percent of applicants are married and another 5 percent are felons.

Certain background-check companies get only limited information.

Rapsheets.com, the company True uses, gets data from four of California’s 58 counties, according to the Rapsheets.com Web site.

“If you live in a place that doesn’t have open criminal records, your criminal history might not show up,” said Chris Hoofnagle, senior counsel with the Washington-based Electronic Privacy Information Center. “If you have a common name, you might show a criminal history that doesn’t belong to you.”

The 55-year-old Sonoma County woman who identified Wells first met him in 2004 on eHarmony.com. The woman thought the ophthalmologist was “creepy.”

“In his profile, he talks about how he’s a ‘sensuous person.’ That sends out bells,” she said. “I kept writing because I wanted to see if there was something wrong with him. … If my feeling was right, I wanted to make sure somebody like that wouldn’t be online.”

She corresponded with Wells until he revealed his last name. With that, she checked his background and learned he was convicted of “attempted lewd and lascivious act with a child under 14” in 2001 in Stanislaus County.

According to court documents, Wells had met a fictitious 13-year-old girl in a chat room during a sheriff’s department sting operation. He served three years of county probation and lost his medical license.

“He would ask me questions about if I had fantasies of being abducted, kidnapped and raped,” said sheriff’s detective Ken Hedrick, who pretended to be the girl.

Wells declined to comment about the case.

The Sonoma County woman contacted eHarmony, which removed Wells from the site, she said. She then saw him on Match.com and True.com in October. True sued him a month later.

“If anyone who’s married or has a criminal conviction thinks they can get on our site, go ahead and try me,” Vest said.

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The J Date From Hell

FROM THE NEW YORK DAILY NEWS

First he took her to a fancy French restaurant on the upper West Side, then he took her to the cleaners.
A 65-year-old married man from Brooklyn turned out to be the Internet date from hell for a widow who was looking for love – but instead found a con man who scammed her out of $100,000, prosecutors charged.
Investigators believe there are more victims of Alan Sarner, who allegedly used the computer in his Sheepshead Bay apartment to transform himself from a married retiree into a phony investment banker looking to fleece lonely women….

On their first date at the Cafe des Artistes restaurant on the upper West Side, Sarner pitched a get-rich-quick deal for a company on the verge of curing leukemia, according to prosecutors. Within a month, Lynn allegedly gave Sarner three checks totaling $100,000.

We at Corra Group are constantly warning people against the predators stalking the online dating sites and dating clubs. They are out there, feeding on the hopes and wishes of many, and the desperation of most. In fact, recently I was compelled to write an article, “Meet the New Mr. Goodbar,” addressing this very issue. What disturbs us is that for a couple of bucks you can run a background check on someone’s criminal and financial records and find out if they are for real. A few bucks of prevention is worth, in this case, losing $100,000, to say nothing of the humiliation and the embarrassment. And in the extreme cases you risk physical harm and and even death. So, as we say at Corra, “Check Them Out Before You Date Them.”

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Life and other travails of Online Dating

It seems that most of the criticisms of online dating are reflective of that random happening we commonly know as “life.” In life as well as the cyberworld, men outnumber women at nearly every social event. Any trip to a singles bar or an organized social will serve as testamant that guys have the odds stacked against them.

Hence the reason men need to use their looks, charm and sense of humor to capture the affections of the opposite sex. If he didn’t have to work to get the girl, it would be awfully damn boring. And since the cyberworld is every bit like life, winning a mate involves using your assets in varied and meaningful ways. It begins with the introduction, the ability to write an attractive message. Women are generally more verbal than men, after all, so the men who can best express themselves will almost always have the advantage.

In any event, the time has come that most of us get over the obscure expectation that life or online dating comes with some form of guarantee. It doesn’t. An Online dating service only presents one more place where men and women have the opportunity to meet each other. It is up to you to work it out from there.

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Meet the New Mr. Goodbar

He may not murder you, but he’ll take your money
and leave you feeling like a fool.

By
Gordon Basichis

In 1975, the recently deceased Judith Rossner published her best selling book, Looking for Mr. Goodbar. The book told the story of a young female schoolteacher’s search for the perfect man, Mr. Goodbar. Her relentless cruising of the singles bars and her increasing flirtation with danger ultimately leads to her descent into hell and her subsequent murder. The public in general found this cautionary tale shocking and disturbing. Critics praised both book and film as honest depictions of female sexuality in the freewheeling seventies.

Rossner’s novel was loosely based on the actual murder of Katherine Cleary, a schoolteacher. On New Year’s Eve in 1973 she picked up one Joe Willie Sampson in Mr. Goodbar, a singles watering hole in New York City, and took him back to her apartment. Sampson killed her there and later hanged himself in his jail cell, while awaiting trial. Since then, in the American vernacular, Mr. Goodbar has become synonymous with a sociopathic killer who preys on single women.

Today there is a new Mr. Goodbar. Chances are you will never find him in the modern singles bar. Unlike the Mr. Goodbar singles bars of the seventies and eighties that offered sex, romance and always a touch of danger, the modern watering holes have been sanitized, franchised and often transplanted to the eternal blandness of the shopping mall. It is unlikely the modern woman will be driven to the gates of hell by a khaki clad executive stopping by the local BJ’s after a hard day at the business park. Perhaps other than boredom and enduring the predictable mating habits of her office cronies, the modern woman faces a greater danger driving home in traffic than she does rejecting the guy hitting on her at the hors d’oeuvres stand.

Realistically, most women stopping off at happy hour and even later are there to do what their male counterparts are doing let off a little steam. For the most part they have seen the repertoire of available men, dated some and avoided the rest. Now, for the most part, their time spent at the local watering hole is a mild distraction between work and a trip to the gym, or to go home and feed the cat, order in Chinese and log onto their favorite online dating site. They become one of millions of women, engaging strangers on the thousands of dating sites pervading the Internet. And here in this virtual world of romantic fantasies and wishful thinking, they are risking the fateful encounter with the new Mr. Goodbar.

The new Mr. Goodbar need not be a sociopath ready to erupt into a murderous rage to be considered dangerous. He is usually a lot smarter and a lot more calculating. The new Mr. Goodbar may have no interest in taking a woman’s life. Instead he may take her money and steal her identity, leaving her to spend the next year cleaning up the credit mess. There are thousands of male predators seeking out professional women and women of means. To a predator it’s no secret the glass ceiling has been cracked if not shattered. He has done his research. He likes successful women. The new Mr. Goodbar finds his happy hunting ground in many women graduating law school, medical school, and the high paid executives at major corporations. His potential prey own houses, have bank accounts, and own stock portfolios. They are women who have money he can steal if he plays his cards right and persuades even the smartest women that with him they are fated for the mythical land of happily after ever.

It begins usually with a predator writing wonderful emails, indicating how sensitive and caring he is. He lies about his job, his wealth, his present state of mind. He loves your cats, your dogs, your kids; he adores your personality. He knows you better than anyone has known you before. Before long he may have a woman convinced they are soul mates. He is, after all, very good at what he does.

The all new and reconstituted Mr. Goodbar will not just con a woman over the Internet. He will arrange to meet and to come to her house where he can avail himself of her financial records. If they sleep together, he may slip out of bed and check through her drawers, and through her wallet for driver’s license, credit cards and her social security number. He may persuade her he needs money to start a business, or he may order credit cards in her name, delivered to a blind post office address. The female victim may not discover she has financial difficulties until as much as a year later.

Before anyone scoffs at the notion and thinks that I am exaggerating, consider these facts. Women are five to eight times more likely to be victimized by an intimate partner. More than one-and-a-half-million women are raped or assaulted by an intimate partner every year. More than four in ten incidents of domestic violence involve singles. Michigan and other states have considered making it a blanket law that all applicants to online dating sites first undergo a personal background check, before being approved.

There are several reputable companies offering background checks for singles and members of online dating site. One service, Corra Group, caters to the professional woman with the kind of material assets that may very well attract the new Mr. Goodbar. Corra Group also specializes in personal service. For further information contact – – Corra Group Background Check Services